Lately I have been thinking about the practice of giving
blessings, like the Aaronic Blessing from the book of Deuteronomy,
The Lord bless you
and keep
you;
the Lord make His face shine upon you
and be
gracious to you;
the Lord turn His face toward you
and give
you peace. “
Or, like the blessing that Jesus gave the children in Mark
where Jesus takes them in his arms and blesses them, or like the Irish blessing,
“May the road rise up to meet you…,”
I used to think a blessing was just sort of a vague wish.
I bless you, I wish good things for you. But giving a blessing actually does
something to us, and this story helps explain that. It’s a true story. A man
named Christopher tells about looking forward to welcoming his wife home after
hip surgery. He wanted to show his love for her by taking good care of her. He
wanted to be a good husband. The first morning after she got home, Christopher
realized he was feeling a little cranky. He is not a morning person. Some of us
are morning people, and others of us have to live with morning people.
Christopher is not a morning person, but he was still
doing what he needed to do to take care of his wife. And then he started
feeling hungry, because he hadn’t had breakfast yet, and that made him even
more cranky. Do you get cranky when you’re hungry?
And then he started feeling guilty. He started worrying
that he wasn’t a good husband, because he was feeling cranky. And then he
started thinking this was all his wife’s fault anyway, because she had this
surgery. We do that sometimes. We feel bad, and so we blame other people. But he caught himself. He realized what he was thinking
and feeling, and he took a couple of deep breaths. Which almost always helps. And then he thought, “I don’t want either one of us to
suffer.” He thought: “May neither one of us suffer.”
May neither one of us suffer. Christopher called this a “mindful intervention.” This is a fancy way to say he became aware of what he was thinking, and turned it around with what we would call a blessing. May neither of us suffer. In just those few words, he turned his heart toward his wife, and it kind of softened him. It softened his feelings, and he realized he wanted the best for her.
Blessing is a practice because when we bless someone or something, God turns our heart toward the person or the thing. God makes space in our heart, God softens our heart to love the person or thing.
Blessings in the Old
Testament were usually for your family, or for your own people, your own tribe. But Jesus shows us something very different. In Jesus’
time, children were not very important. I know that’s hard to imagine, but
that’s why the disciples were telling them to go away. Children weren’t thought
of as people. But Jesus said, “Let them come to me.” He said it takes a simple,
open and trusting heart to understand what God wants us to be. And then he
blessed them. Jesus shows us that we are to bless people who aren’t in our
family, who aren’t in our neighborhood or town or school, even those people we
would rather not even think about, because blessing opens our hearts to them,
and makes a space in our hearts for them.
I challenge you to think of someone or some group that you think of as outsiders, not part of your family, your group, your tribe. Then think about how you might bless them.
